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Are You Easy To Love?

Hum...what a subject you might be thinking for a Christian Blog. However, we have often heard people say; "some people are just easier to love than others." I would like to think that Jesus thinks I am easy to love, however, I know that He knows; sometimes I am hardheaded, ambivalent about certain things, and quite set in my ways at times. Oh Lord, I am just too honest about myself.....or am I?

Just like in Personal Growth; our Christians journey needs  have to look at how they are perceived by others to make sure they are acting like Jesus.

I can talk about myself because I am not supposed to sit back and characterize anyone else, so here we go.

Here are some characteristics within my life that I can admit to:

  • Always a quite person in career, church, and social gatherings.
  • Reserved - not stuck up but reserved - sometimes referred to as shy, and could be insecurities.
  • Not one to speak up about and exploit my knowledge, or training in public; just worked hard, made sure I did what was expected of me, and always had good results.
  • Let others do the talking most of the time unless I am very comfortable with whomever I was with.
  • I did teach Sunday School, and felt that God Blessed me, not felt, He did bless me.
  • I speak out with family - absolutely no reservations whatsoever. The truth makes you free.
  • I am a very direct person when I feel I have been unjustly accused.
  • I am a chance taker, not afraid of change.
  • I have probably taken too many chances within my life, however we do not know unless we try. Even when I was a child, I would try anything, even drinking gas from a can. No joke, real!
  • I know that in my younger years I chose flight, instead of fight, which was not always be the solution..
  • In my na├»ve years, I thought because someone patted me on the back, they liked me.
  • I also had an illusion of life in general; however, I learned as I went, the hard way.
  • I did not take things sitting down, when they were wrong; I had the grit to fight back.
  • If I thought someone had an issue with me, I would ask to find out; what and why.
  • I was and still am a "thinker."
  • I have never compared or measured myself to someone else, their success or their accomplishments. I have my own story, be it full of mistakes, setbacks and sins. It is who I am, and this is who I have become. I have learned some lesson, and they were hard lessons. I asked forgiveness, and I am done. However, I have always been able to rise above my lessons, not as quickly now with age, as I did in the past.
  • I see myself with flaws, I know I have the need to be a better human, and a better Christian.
  • I have always believed in prayer. I have always believed that with Christ all things are possible.
  • There have been time that the devil has tried to convenience me otherwise.
  • I have always loved home.
  • I have always loved children, and wanted more. My husband said, no!
  • I have had times that I have been disappointed with myself, only to give myself another chance, and hoping that Jesus would. He always did! 
  • I have hurt, cried, prayed all of my life. Even when.....He would only heard my prayer of repentance.
  • I have always loved Jesus, and He has always loved me, and forgiven me my sins.
This in some ways sounds like two different individuals. Quiet, yet doesn't mind telling it like it is. Is that always the way to be? No, not always a good thing.

I had some Chinese food some time ago and this was my fortune cookie:  "The most direct approach isn't always the best. Use diplomacy."   Some people think you are a hot head if you are direct. I am direct when I think I have to be, and as the fortune cookie states, it is not always the best way to go.

I firmly believe that the truth should be spoken, and stood up for. It does not always work that way if you do not have the advantage of someone to support you with the truth. I have experienced this more than once, and after all the fight for the truth, resigned a job making a great salary. There was no one with influence; that had my back. Just the opposite.

I will mention that some years after the above occurred everyone closely involved had an opportunity to see the oddity, and illness of  the person who wanted me to perform duties that were not justice to other employees. I was set on the truth, the integrity, and the character for justice.

So with this mention of how I see the truth in my life and think that I might be easy to love; it does not always play out like we think.  Someone, somewhere is not going to like you, let alone love you regardless of how easy you think you are to love.

No this is not my entire actions within all of my life, and you would not list all of your either, regardless of space. I have listed how I see myself, not how someone sees me, as I know there are other views out there. Again, I am honest with myself. 

Even as a Christian, I am sure there are some people who do not like me, or let's say; love me.

However, my point in the title of the post, "Are You Easy To Love," is this:  We see ourselves as we are (we think), or hopefully we do. Other people see us as they think we are. How do we become someone easy to love and portray that to our Christian friends?

Great question, don't you think? This is what the scripture tell us:

"Finally,brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, 
whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things 
are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Philippians 4:8

This was my daily scripture today...and it goes so well with this post:

Colossians 3: 8-15

"But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;

And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:

Where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond nor free: but Christ is all, and in all.

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.

And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful."
If we live by these scripture, I truthfully feel that we can be easy to love. If we lack one thing in God's eyes we will miss our eternal destination.