Psychology also teaches that when we do not receive our basic needs, our actions may become irascible, our sensitivity may become more apparent and even irate. Sometimes people react the opposite way by becoming withdrawn, and easily offended. Being human; we all react to life differently as humans without Christ.
With Christ; our actions and reactions should be a bit more conservative, but sometimes lack of prayer, concentration, and feeling apart of something good can cause us to be more human. Sometimes life issues get too heavy and they cause us to take a step backward instead of forward. As Christians we should always be trying to go forward not backwards; not always an easy task.
So, the question remains; how does unity abound within a church? We are human, we think differently, we act differently, and some people are just easier to 'like.' That word is actually wrong as we must not like but love one another. Like is not a word in Jesus vocabulary. Love is to abound without dissimulation.
Romans 12:9 "Let love be without dissimulation; abhor that which is evil, cleave to that which is good." We ALL know what dissimulation means.
The next is the command: John 13: 34
"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another."
Luke 6:32 says this about love:
"For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them."
Let's break it down just a little:
We do not have to like how some people act, how they relate to us, or how we believe them to be. We do have to love their soul. How can you love someone who acts indifferent or like they do not love us? Christ does it all the time!!! There are people who call His name in vain, there are people who mock the Holy Spirit, there are people who say there is no God. He loves them just the same, with the same amount of love.
If I go to church and speak only to those that I love the most; am I doing what Jesus has told me to do? If I neglect to show love to each of my fellow Christians; am I walking in all of the light that Jesus has given us?
If I can only give encouragement to a significant few, am I living how Jesus has told me to? If I can't find the good in each person that attends the church service; am I living according to the word?